Predicting the Unpredictable Journey

I do not understand why people try to plan an unpredictable event in their life. Many of us say, ‘We will have kids once we are settled’ or ‘After exploring the world, we will plan for a baby’. I wonder why??

Why to ‘get settled’ before having a baby? Don’t they deserve to travel and enjoy being with you? Will they like to live a boring life? The most important question is, are they stopping you from doing what you want to do in your life?

Till pretty small age, say 5-6 yrs or more depending upon different lifestyle and individual kid, babies do not demand anything other than food and toys. General pre-schooling age is also 3 yrs while this also depends on when you want your baby to go to school or on their physical and mental development. So, as a whole, you will have around 4 years to travel, explore, make your career or live by yourself even after having a baby. 

Okay! Let’s assume that you are settled. You have explored all the different places, got a well designated role and a nice house with a brand new car. Your bucket-list is closed. Then what?

Your regular expenses will increase. You will start using expensive or branded items. Your career will be at peak and you would need more dedicated time to justify your responsibilities. You will have more friends, colleagues, relatives expecting you to be big enough to attend their events, parties and celebrations.

Your parents will be retired by then and free to visit you. They deserve to have some meaningful time with you. They would wish to see their grand-children and experience the sweetness of being grand-parents. 

Will you be able to give time to your baby when you are at a higher position in a well-known organization? Will you be having enough strength and patience to run behind a toddler to make them feed? Will you have the family support to manage office work and house-hold chores? How much house-help would you need to fulfill the needs for proper development of a baby?

And the truth is, at any instant of time, your wish-list will not get completed. Always, a new exciting place or new goals will get added into it.

Why restrict yourself to live happily or live the way you want for a little instant of your long happening life span? Or why to just have limited goals to achieve and then settle in there? 

I know you will have a nice fool-proof plan with enough financial well-being. But what will you plan for an unpredictable stage of life? Parenthood is the best stage of life with really everything unimaginably great. Your baby will be your biggest asset, you will nourish them and cherish each moment. These moments are unplanned and thus, should not be planned when to have it. Let life, or if you believe, let destiny decide when to have these sweetest and adorable moments.

Trust me if I say that you will not find any span of time when you would think is the right moment to plan your own kind and you could sit calmly to raise them well without any hustle. As time passes-by, you will be tired, in a hectic life schedule, managing your brands and high-quality living that you will be unable to provide proper time to your child at the very delicate and deserved age. They will grow up willing to play with you and when they are adults and ready to move out that time you might will for a fruitful family get-togethers.

Once kids enter your life, everything you planned will go in vain. Life will get completely changed. All settled stuff will need a modification or a complete replacement. Parenting is a very unpredictable journey. Then why to settle and then re-settle?

Think and tell me, when you think is the right time to have your own little copy, that your own puckish tiny pumpkin whom you would want to be a great person, explore the world, have adventurous and successful life?